Life does not always turn out the way as planned. It is unpredictable. You may need to keep changing and adjusting as you go on with life. While we may plan how we would like our lives to be, it is always God’s plans which prevail in the end. When life does not go the way as planned, it is easy to become discouraged. Staying hopeful in those situations may seem impossible, but God is always there to restore lost hope.

Some of life’s disappointments can be overwhelming and can leave one totally disoriented. I remember reading about Miss H, who suffered severe psychological damage in Great Expectations. She had planned a grand wedding, only to be disappointed on the day, at twenty minutes to nine. She received the letter from the dishonest person who said he would not be present for the wedding. Miss H simply stopped living at that moment. She retreated from life and had all her clocks in the mansion stopped at twenty minutes to nine for the rest of her life. She could not stay hopeful after that traumatic incident. Unfortunately, many people are not trained to handle life’s disappointments. Like the character in Great Expectations, we sometimes lose hope when life does not turn out the way we expected. Some people can become severely depressed, and some may turn to unhealthy habits in order to try and deal with their pain. One should not despair so easily.



It is difficult to stay hopeful after devastating setbacks in life, but one should always remember that God is always in control. No situation is permanent. “…Weeping may stay for the night, but joy comes in the morning.” Psalms 30:5. When Job faced calamities in his life, he remained faithful. He understood that God allowed those calamities to happen for a reason. He did not blame God, but continued to trust in Him.

Lessons to remember when facing life’s disappointments

God is in control
The Lord allows situations to happen for a reason. He will not permit any temptation which is above what you can bear. The Holy spirit is always there to comfort and guide us. God was with Job in all his suffering. In the same way, He is with us even when we go through trials of all kinds. 

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Disappointments will sometimes happen
When going through a trying time, it is easy to think perhaps you are the only one facing the challenges of life. What we should always keep in mind is that Jesus also went through a lot of suffering while on this earth. He has promised to never leave us nor forsake us in our suffering. "The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." Deuteronomy 31:8.

Accept reality
One thing I learnt from one Psychology class is that denial can prevent one from healing and moving on. The earlier the one accepts reality, the better. Accepting reality is the first step towards recovery. During this time, take time to reflect. 

Talk to someone you trust
It is important to talk to someone you trust, or seek counselling early. Seeking counseling is essential for the overall long term well-being. By not seeking help earlier, one may be open to more serious mental health issues. Counseling can help one deal with the situation better. It can also help one realize that not all is lost. There are helpful ways of dealing with the situation.

Meditate upon God's word
There is so much happening around us. Sometimes it may be easy to focus too much on life's challenges and forget to meditate upon God's word. Remember to pray and study God's word. This will help you stay hopeful. Keep God's word in your mind. In difficult times, I always refer to my inspirational Bible verses. for encouragement. I am uplifted when I remember that God is always in control. "You will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You." Isaiah 26:3 

Let go and let God
When life does not go the way as planned, one should remember to turn to turn to God and trust that everything will be fine. He always has something better in store. Always remember that the situation is temporary and it will pass. 

Believe that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. 

Suko